Rumor Has It

Everyone has heard the extremely overplayed Adele song. Seeing as I have heard it at least 40 times this week without ever putting my CD in, I thought I would write a little bit about a line that really struck me.

'Just cuz I said it, don't mean that I meant it.' That's the one. Doesn't seem to make a whole lot of sense, does it? Why would someone say things they don't mean? Are they confused? Have they not thought about the consequences? Are they just being impulsive and rash, saying the first thing that pops into their addled brains? Do they completely lack self-control? Perhaps they are just into playing stupid games and running around acting juvenile or they are just flat out fools with nothing truly better to do with their time.

It is usually a conglomeration of all of the questions posed. Confused idiots, spouting off at the mouth about things they know nothing about and have thought relatively little about how it will affect them or others in the long run. When people say things they don't mean or ask for things they don't want, it takes away validity of their words. People begin to treat them dismissively, because after all, they really aren't sure of what they want anyway. These people are usually guilty of having a lack of follow through...essentially, not someone to trust.

Having true conviction isn't easy. Being self-assured isn't a trait everyone has. All too often it is because these people are aware on at least a sub-conscious level of their inability to thoroughly process something before saying it. That nature of blurting out something in an 'I want it it now!' fashion of an insolent toddler rarely leads to good decision making. Often it will begat disappointment, self-doubt, confusion, rash choices and in some people a bit of rage. Finding out what you said you wanted isn't going according to plan sends some of these people into a full on tantrum.

Instead of making demands and expecting instant gratifiacation, take a moment to breathe before stating or asking for your wants. Consider the options and weigh the possible end results. Their is an inherent risk in saying you want something or asking for something. You must be fully prepared for all possibilities before entering the realm of conviction. If you aren't, I will gladly pass you the syrup for yet another sticky situation you have gotten yourself into. Congratulations...you are a waffler.