The thoughts for this post happened last night while laying in bed with the MC. We were in bed talking and I found myself admiring him. *sigh* The way his hair was messy, how the right side of his upper lip pulls up more when he smiles, the sniff he has from allergies, the 'crows feet' that highlight his gorgeous kaleidoscope eyes. Seriously, this man has eyes that are brown with flecks of green and turquoise with a brilliant gold in the center. *swoons* Suffice it to say, I am so taken with this man. I am utterly smitten and couldn't imagine loving him more. So the goofy dances, the messy morning hair, the quirk that he has about laying down in bed then immediately getting up to crack his back before laying back down, kissing me at the most inopportune moments...all of those little things add up to the man I am in love with.
It comes down to appreciation. I love all those things about him because I appreciate him. There are things we find in the people we love that no one else will see or know, nor would we really want them to. Those appreciations are like our secret language with the one we love. That is what makes it special.
The most important part about the little things and the appreciation is that we express it. Tell others the good you see in them, reaffirm your feelings. They might not always see what you see, but that is not the important part. They have to hear what you see and repeatedly. That shy smile that they give and the way they roll their eyes might be worth it. If there are things that you love about someone, tell them, even if it sounds stupid saying something like, "The way your nose wrinkles when you smile is the cutest thing I have ever seen"...that might be exactly what they need to hear.
We want to know that our partner is paying attention to us. What better way to show someone that love and attention than by pointing out the details that you find endearing. It might take a little bravery to admit that you are the creepy stalker type and hope they don't trip over their own feet running for the door when you tell them. Face the fear that it will be received in the spirit that it is given. It's ok to let people know that you care and that you are paying attention. You might even find out a thing or two about yourself that you didn't know and that the person you love finds *gag* adorable.
It comes down to appreciation. I love all those things about him because I appreciate him. There are things we find in the people we love that no one else will see or know, nor would we really want them to. Those appreciations are like our secret language with the one we love. That is what makes it special.
The most important part about the little things and the appreciation is that we express it. Tell others the good you see in them, reaffirm your feelings. They might not always see what you see, but that is not the important part. They have to hear what you see and repeatedly. That shy smile that they give and the way they roll their eyes might be worth it. If there are things that you love about someone, tell them, even if it sounds stupid saying something like, "The way your nose wrinkles when you smile is the cutest thing I have ever seen"...that might be exactly what they need to hear.
We want to know that our partner is paying attention to us. What better way to show someone that love and attention than by pointing out the details that you find endearing. It might take a little bravery to admit that you are the creepy stalker type and hope they don't trip over their own feet running for the door when you tell them. Face the fear that it will be received in the spirit that it is given. It's ok to let people know that you care and that you are paying attention. You might even find out a thing or two about yourself that you didn't know and that the person you love finds *gag* adorable.
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