Break Up Hair

This is dedicated to all of those men and especially women who have done this, the stylists who have suffered from bat shit crazy insecure clients and to the rest of us that get a good laugh at your expense. nothing says nut job like a bad dye job.

We have all seen it - drastic cuts or color changes, sudden emergence of bangs. Nothing says unstable like ripping your appearance apart because someone rejected you. Rejection hurts, no doubt about that, but why give someone else the power to tell you that you aren't good enough? Making yourself look ridiculous with changes to your hair sure isn't the way to do it. You left your hair the way it was during the relationship because you knew it looked good on you and felt confident in that. What is the purpose of turning yourself into something laughable because your relationship didn't work? What I find even more curious is the defiance factor - my ex would never allow me to do this with my looks, so I am going to do it now. Why did you allow someone else to determine how YOU look?

I change my hair constantly, but not out of rejection. I change it to do something new and fun and because occasionally my health deems it necessary. I am happy in my relationship and that gives me the confidence to make changes in my appearance. I don't want my partner becoming bored with me. I also know that the happier I am with myself, the happier my relationship will be. (strange concept)

What ultimately makes relationships fail is not physical appearance, so why does someone think that is the answer when things go wrong? Maybe your sex life wasn't bad because you were fat, maybe it was because you were a prude. Was it your long hair that made your communication bad, Samson? Or was it your unwillingness to be open? Did your hair color ruin your relationship or was it your insecurities?

We should never allow someone else to tell us how to look. Likewise, we should never allow ourselves to blame our lousy relationship on our looks. If you keep having relationships that fail, stop looking to physical means to make your next one better. Make yourself better before you get into another relationship. If your claim to fame is that you act completely insane, no relationship is going to last. No amount of stomach crunches, kettle bells or bad dye jobs can change that. Get yourself to the real workout, I mean the tough stuff. Find out whatever it is about YOU that is causing this rejection and breakups, stop blaming superficial means for a problem that is about personality. The crass saying goes "For every beautiful woman out there, there is a man tired of putting up with her shit". No matter what your physical appearance is, you have to be beautiful on the inside to be truly desirable. Instead of giving your looks a makeover, give your emotions and spirit a makeover. While I do appreciate a good laugh, the world could do with a few less bad 'dos' or don'ts if you will.