It's None of Your Business

Many people like to pretend their lives are perfect, or whatever imperfection is in them is the sole responsibility of someone else. Accepting fault (whether good or bad) is key to growing as an individual. There seems to be a rash of people getting upset with things they have either no control over or something that is simply none of their business.
Telling someone that something is none of their business comes hard for me. Once you get to a point where you try to live as clandestine as possible, it almost becomes second nature to blurt out the utter truth. There are times I am trying to grab the words and cram them back into my mouth as they are spilling out. There is that time when I stifle it down and try not to share it because it doesn't sit right. There is one person in particular that I am terrible about that with...ahem MC, that is you. Bringing truth to light is painful at times, hurting most in it's path.
How do you make that truth not hurt? By telling someone that it simply isn't their business. We are all (I hate the following word because of the negative connotation) entitled to have personal feelings, beliefs, thoughts that we would rather not share for whatever reason. Others take personal offense if we choose not to share with them.We begin to question them and ourselves by nature almost instantly. Why don't they trust me? What is this secret they are hiding? What is the motivation for not telling me? What are they trying to protect me from? The answer simply is...it's none of your business. Do you really want to drag something out of a person only to have them resent you for intruding? What if they are afraid of your reaction and don't feel secure enough to share it with you? Then you could stomp all over their trust.
We don't need to divulge every detail of our lives. We also don't need to keep everything stuffed down inside. Something we share with one person may not be what we would choose to share with another. We have different people in our lives for different reasons. We may not share everything with everybody, which is perfectly fine. That would ultimately leave one quite vulnerable and is a dangerous practice. Could you imagine telling your boss what you truly think of him/her?! Or blabbing on to a co-worker about your personal life? Telling the lady at the zoo about your wild bender of a weekend during your college years? Certainly not, because it's not their business. If you have deemed something is not someone else's business then it was probably done so for a good reason.
Having someone you feel trusting enough of and comfortable with to share everything is utopian, but not reality. The trick is to learn who you can share with and who deserves your trust. Choose carefully, there are plenty of people out there who will knowingly hurt you for one reason or another (often it is their own insecurity). When you have chosen a few people to lean on, laugh with and expose your soul to - then you are set for a lifetime of great relationships. We don't have the capacity to do this with many people, that just spreads us too thin emotionally. Those few that we do find that with provide a tremendous feeling of warmth when we can share and grow like that.

To those in my life that I have that with: my deepest thanks for my deepest thoughts and feelings.